Failure?

I'm frustrated by my limitations. Today I spent most of the day on the sofa resting. A lot of what comes along with EDS is pain and fatigue. Fatigue is what I struggled with the most today. I have a lot of projects around the house that are just waiting for me to do them, and every time I pass by them, I feel guilty that I am not able to get them done.
Sometime I feel like such a failure. A failure of a mother. A failure of a wife. A failure of a homeowner, and just a failure in general. Even every day, ordinary tasks that most people do with ease, I struggle with. I'm behind on everything here at home. I have a mountain of laundry that needs to be done, my house is a mess, etc.... and it drives me crazy to look at it all because on top of everything I am a little bit of what you would call a germophobe and a clean freak. I want to be able to go on a cleaning streak and get everything taken care of because I know that in one way it would make me feel soooo much better to be in a clean and organized environment, but at the same time, I also know the toll that it would take on my body if I dare do it. Anyone have a magical wand that they want to lend me? No? Hmmm... didnt think so :(
Maybe I'm foolish, or maybe I'm just optimistic, but some nights I just go to bed thinking, that tomorrow is jut a new day, and maybe I'll wake up feeling better then.... maybe I'll be pain feel and have the energy to get everything done then. One can hope right?